Yes, I’m able to write part 2 because once again….I woke up without going into labor. (Sad violin playing in the background). I’m telling you, I must be running a 5-star hotel in there—my little boy is so cozy he doesn’t want to come out!
I’m 6 days over my due date and apparently, the average first born child comes 10 days overdue. Don’t even get me started on this whole ‘due date’ thing. They tell you it’s really a ‘due month’ and that baby can safely come 2 weeks before your due date AND 2 weeks after. So for the sake of my head and HEART….next time, I’m going to have them tell me my due MONTH.
Talk about learning how to give up control. You’re waiting in expectation for the most exciting thing that’s ever happened to you…..for an entire month. Yes, I’m learning a whole new level of patience….every single day. (:
So Part 2 of my must have’s/do’s for pregnancy.
1) WATCH ‘THE BUSINESS OF BEING BORN’ ON NETFLIX.
Expect to see boobies. Expect to see a natural birth (not a gross video like the one from your 6th grade health class—a beautiful one). And expect to bawl your eyes out in a good way.
Before I got pregnant, I was one of those women who would quickly give the response, “Oh, man…give me the drugs!” I HATE physical pain. Hate it. I thought, “If you can give me drugs to help the whole process, why in the world would I consider anything differently?” After watching this documentary by Ricky Lake, I definitely changed my tune.
Childbirth is a big business in the United States. They want those hospital beds filled then emptied, filled then emptied. If you go into labor and want to hang around for 24 hours, you’d better believe they’re going to give you drugs to speed along the process…drugs that haven’t been necessary for thousands of years and that can actually cause duress, stress, and trauma to your baby in the womb. The US has one of the highest cesarean rates in the world…and why? Because we tell our bodies when to have contractions instead of waiting for them to happen the way God intended. Sometimes, when you force your body through meds to have contractions it isn’t ready to have, the baby that’s not ready to come goes into ‘stress.’ That’s when the doctor comes in and says, “Ma’am, for the sake of your baby, we need to do surgery and get it out.” A surgery that, a lot of times, was brought on by the drugs you didn’t need in the first place!
Yep. The Western world is still trying to control everything—even something that was never meant to be controlled.
Our babies know when they need to be born. Our bodies know when our babies need to be born. What has been sold to us as women as a benefit to child birth…in actuality…has convinced us that we don’t know how to have babies.
Educate yourself. Know the TRUTH about the drugs they’re wanting to put into your body. Know the truth about child birth. The more you know, the less fear you’ll have.
Watch this trailer for The Business of Being Born:
2) READ ‘SUPERNATURAL CHILDBIRTH’ BY JACKIE MIZE
I teach classes every year at the Bethel Worship School in Redding, California, and I remember last year asking the class if they’d ever heard of anyone having a completely pain-free childbirth. I was surprised when several students raised their hands, giving testimonies of women and friends who had had babies with literally….NO PAIN.
This intrigued me. (Duh….I hate pain).
As a Jesus-luva, I’d heard about pain, suffering, disease and affliction being paid for at the cross. I’d heard about miracles and healings, and I’d seen and experienced many of them myself. I knew that God could heal people of cancer and broken bones, and that the deaf could hear and the blind could see. But a pain-free childbirth? That wasn’t something I’d heard preached about. Ever.
My doula (who is a birth-coach and someone who will be with me and Studhubs for the whole labor process) suggested this book, and unfortunately, I didn’t read it until a couple of months ago. BIG mistake. Next time, I’ll have this book with me from start to finish.
This woman, Jackie Mize, began looking at God’s promises (and there are a lot of them!). She saw how Eve’s curse of childbearing in Genesis was actually PAID FOR by what Jesus did…and that when Jesus said that he died for ALL pain, he meant ALL pain. Why couldn’t this mean the pain of labor and delivery?
Her and her husband began pumping their hearts and spirits full of God’s promises, of everything He said in His word, and when it came time to have her baby…she was in and out, pushed twice, and with NO pain…had 3 children. Wham, bam, slam, thank you ma’am. The book is full of testimony after testimony of women saying the same thing…that because of what God has promised us, they went into labor and delivery and popped out babies with absolutely no fear and pain.
I mentioned yesterday that fear releases 1400 chemicals into the body, and that none of them are good. Fear in childbirth is actually the number one cause of pain, which is why, when you agree with God that His perfect love casts out ALL fear…it makes sense that pain goes away. It makes sense that pain is under the curse and we don’t have to tolerate it. It makes sense that this birthing process can be incredible, and not horrific like every movie claims it’s going to be.
When people ask me if I’m scared, I just smile. What in the world could I possibly be afraid of? God knew about my baby before the beginning of time, and He’s going with me INTO birth.
Fear is a complete waste of my time. (:
Ok, once again, this is getting long. Which is why, I’ll continue tomorrow.
If I haven’t had a baby by then.