Anonymous asked: I've been reading a book that says that to be content as a single I have to have faith that God's plan is so much greater than my own and that he has my ''love story'' under control. Sometimes when I see a guy that's, well, enjoyable to look at, my mind begins to whirl into fantasy world. I recently saw a guy that, I'm sure, if I look at for even short amounts of time, will land me in fantasy world for a good hour. So I made the decision that I just won't look at him, I'll avoid thinking about him, and I'll make sure I don't get "primped" for him or maneuver situations so that I "coincidentally" end up sitting near him. In fact, I've been so strict on myself of not looking at him, that I'm actually kind of afraid to be around him. I'm trying to avoid so much, but I'm starting to think that isn't exactly what the book was going for. I want to be to admire the fact that, yes, he is rather attractive, and yes, he is a great Christian guy who is one day going to marry a wonderful girl, but that I am content single and that I will not be that "wonderful girl." It's just that I'm so terrified to end up in fantasy land because then it looks like I'm not trusting God, but I also feel that all this avoiding is a bit silly (but maybe somewhat necessary?) I just don't know. Thanks, Christa! Annie H.
Well first of all, I think you’re thinking too much. (I know this trait well). We analyze things/ourselves/motives to death. But the great thing is, we NEVER have to go soul-searching WITHOUT the Holy Spirit. In fact, when we do, we’ll always find things wrong!
Instead of looking at all the things you’ve done wrong, or the negatives that you want to change, start looking at ALL God has done right. Start meditating on promises of His faithfulness, to provide you with ALL you need. That when you delight yourself in Him, He’ll give you the desires of your heart, that you TRUST Him with your heart, your future, your spouse. When you start to ‘restrict’ yourself from fantasy, instead, ask the Holy Spirit to come and begin thanking Him for ALL you have, for your future husband, for preparing your heart for him someday.
Instead of avoiding, run FORWARD to something good. Instead of retreating or living afraid you’re going to do something wrong…CHARGE into the light. Have a list of blessings and keep them close. Meditate on them, ingest them, chew them. It’s all about perspective. (:
You’re becoming the kind of woman who will attract the right kind of man. And that’s a beautiful thing. (:
XOXO
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